Almost everyone has a little money secret they’ve kept from their partner. Whether you’ve bought yourself a new set of golf clubs or expensive jewelry, the principle is the same.
Even if you keep some aspect of your finances separate, your partner has a right to know about bigger purchases, liabilities, and incomes. We’ve got you covered with details on financial infidelity, and how to bring it up to your partner.
Let’s Talk About: Financial Secrets
Financial infidelity may start small, but it can quickly turn into a much bigger problem. First you’re hiding receipts for expensive lunches, and then you’re making huge financial decisions without your partner’s knowledge. This can also lead to more serious issues at the very core of your relationship.
It’s essential to understand where to draw the line, and more importantly, how to come clean to your partner.
Types Of Financial Secrets
There’s lots of different money-related things you can hide from your partner. Some of these can be more serious than others, but they can all spell out relationship trouble. If you’re guilty of any of the items on this list, you should chat with your partner sooner rather than later.
Hiding Income Or Cash
If you’re hiding money, it could mean that you don’t feel you have enough financial freedom. Talk to your partner about loosening up. Or, simply tell them that you feel you need some walking around money.
Lying About Major Outstanding Debts
Bring this up ASAP. If you’re lying because you think they might leave you, give them the benefit of the doubt! Your partner will stay with you regardless if your relationship is truly lasting. But, if you lie about it for too long, it may irreversibly damage their trust in you.
Withholding A Significant Purchase
First really think about why you’re doing this, and then be open about it now. Explain your reasonings (maybe you just needed to treat yourself!). But above all, commit to full honestly going forward.